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toys for you to use on cam

LadyJohanna — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:42:48 +0000

I had to come over here to Sexy Mistresses to tell you about this very kewl idea I got from another femdom phonesex operator.

The Lady Calston site sells sex toys that can be controlled over the internet. This seems to me a PERFECT toy for those tease-and-denial calls, among others.

There’s two toys you can choose from for this scenario.

Foxy Lady for Men: This is for ordinary cock-based masturbation, 9-way vibration and speeds. I can so control your dick with this!
G-Pulse for Women: Though advertised for women, any vibrator curved to hit the g-spot is going to be equally awesome for prostate stimulation. So boys, get your butts ready!

being collared

LadyJohanna — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 21:43:50 +0000

It’s such a simple thing, kneeling to receive a collar.

And yet, it’s so profound.

You on your knees, trembling with anticipation, smelling the leather as I slip it around your neck.

This is my favorite collar, a simple black leather collar with a D-ring and a bunch of slots to allow me to adjust it.

And then, the master lock. Or should we call it a mistress lock in this case?

The sound of the lock clicking as you realize you’re trapped, truly locked, that I hold the key.

I like real locks. I have a set of these, all keyed alike, so I can use the same ones on your wrists and ankles. But I’m getting ahead of myself.

And… the feeling of the weight of the lock hanging from your throat.

Immediatly after collaring you, I will likely tousle your hair, letting you feel my fingers run through it.

And then as I stand before you, I’ll slip a finger through the D-ring, lift your head to look you in the eye silently.

No words are necessary. I just want to look at you, see your naked soul as you slip inexorably into submissive headspace at my gaze.

You’re mine now.

And then what? Humiliation perhaps. Or more bondage, perhaps with the matching cuffs. Are you up for a bit of an over-the-knee spanking? Or would you like to be introduced to my lavender strap-on?

Call me to discuss what comes next…

blackmail fetish

LadyJohanna — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 00:04:29 +0000

I suspect there’s a particular reason this is so hot in phone domination yet rarely in real-life BDSM; blackmail keeps it real.

Normally, you call a phone femdomme, she dominates you for a while, then you hang up and it’s over. You might never speak to her again. You might call her back anytime she’s available, at your own convenience. But there’s really nothing holding you to her after the call. You don’t really submit; she doesn’t really have any control beyond the phone call.

With the blackmail fetish, there is a real connection. She has real control over you – even when you’re not on a call, when you’re not aroused, when you’re not hard.

Let me tell you how I recently inducted a beginner into blackmail. We set up an agreement, that we’d do this for one month. I’ve promised to delete all his information at the end of one month unless he asks me not to the week before.

What does this mean? This means for thirty days, I have real control over him. He has to obey or suffer real consequences. He feels my domination even when he wishes it were otherwise.

Traditionally, blackmail means money. But there is a lot a creative domina can do when blackmailing you besides just make you push her tribute buttons and buy her pics. Blackmail isn’t necessarily related to financial domination, though it certainly can be.

The real point is that it extends my control, makes the domination real, thereby allowing me to take you further into the depths of your fantasies than you’d normally dare.

In short, you normally have an “out” if things go too far, too fast, you can always wimp out and hang up. With blackmail, you are completly at my mercy. I can be merciful, I have a strong maternal side, I can be supportive and understanding.

But I’m also a bitch and I do not brook disobedience from the likes of you.

You will obey.

leather and latex and rubber – OH MY!

LadyJohanna — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 00:46:51 +0000

What is it about these substances that is so powerful that they bypass our sexual orientation, fetishes and fantasies, hitting our sexuality directly and in such a primal way?

When I pass a leather store in the mall, the smell invades my senses causing shivers to run up and down my spine. There’s little that can get me so wet as the musky scent of leather.

A friend had a voicemail he refused to erase for years; a dominatrix had called and whispered the word “rubber” again and again. He melted every time he listened to it, her words turned him into a puddle of submissive arousal.

Are you like me, finding the smell an instant turn-on? Or more like my friend who gets so aroused by sound?

Or are you more visual?

the sight of a hot dominatrix encased in a bright red rubber corset
the look of shiny black PVC boots that go all the way up a femdomme’s legs
the slinky silver curves of a tight-fitting neoprene dress wrapping around her waist

Or do you get more aroused by sensation?

the scratchy feel of latigo wrapped around your throat as you hear the lock on the collar click
embraced snuggly as a dominant mummifies you with saran wrap
the unyielding tightness of a latex vacuum bed

What is it about these things? I don’t have any desire to be intimate with a cow, but the scent of leather is an overwhelming experience for me. And it’s completly automatic, I don’t “think” leather, I just smell it and spontaneously react.

Do you have “buttons” like this that just hit you out of the blue?

Tell me about it.

Forced Bisexuality

LadyJohanna — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 02:58:13 +0000

There seem to be several “flavors” of forced bisexuality.

What I originally imagined many years ago when I first ran across this kink was that guys who were bisexual but a tad too homophobic to admit it liked having a fem domme force them, which made it seem like a heterosexual experience.

However, the more guys I talk to about this, the more I find that most of the guys with this fantasy have no attraction to males. I mean, you can’t even get them to tell you which guy is hotter of two choices, because they genuinely don’t know, they just don’t find guys hot.

They’re honestly straight guys. For most of them, wanting to suck cock or have a guy fuck them up the ass isn’t about wanting sex with another guy.

It’s about a lot of things…

It’s about the extreme humiliation of a femdom treating you as less than a real man.
It’s about being seen as desirable and attractive, being the prey instead of the predator, feeling wanted.
It’s about being objectified, used as a sex toy for the dominatrix’s pleasure.
It’s about the depth of submission to a domina necessary to achieve such a thing against your own inclinations.
It’s about being so utterly owned that you can be given away by your domme.

There’s a very typical progression with this fantasy scenario…

Most of you start with strapon fantasies, wanting the femdomme to shove her cock down your throat.
As timidity decreases, you admit you want that intimidating dominatrix to force that big dildo up your ass as well.
Eventually, you don’t just want a dildo anymore, but a real live cock, and you begin imagining cocksucking.
Often, you progress to wanting that real cock up your ass, wanting to know you’re really being used and truly humiliated by the emasculation of having cum shot up your ass.

And yet, the progression rarely continues into bisexuality; you guys never go out and start dating each other. It’s not hot unless I am there.

Those of you with the forced bi fantasy know, even if you’ve never done it, the thought of me making you let a man shove his cock down your throat gets you hard as a rock.

And now…

Perhaps you’ve never even confessed it to anyone, barely admitted it to yourself. Maybe you just want to talk about it with someone who “gets” why you’re fascinated with cock even though you’re straight.
Perhaps you’d like to explore further, chatting or voicing with a man under my guidance and control.
Or maybe, with support, encouragement and not a little manipulation, you can be led into doing it for real… for me.
Maybe you’ve explored this with another mistress previously, but need someone to continue developing your submission with.

Call me to discuss.